SHE NEVER DID SAY SO.
Women talk more than men. Studies at Harvard show that girls learn to talk earlier than boys, and articulate better. Even as adults, men never seem to catch up. It is estimated that the average male speaks about 12,500 words per day while the average woman doubles that with more than 25,000! It is therefore absurd when men say women (actually) say nothing or make no sense when talking. Maybe we need to reconsider what we call “NAGGING”.
Dolly Parton did a song which has (more than) these lines:
…She never wanted to be more than mother and a wife
If she did, she never did say so to daddy.
The only things that seem to be important in her life
Was to make our house a home and make us happy –
Mama never wanted any more than what she had
If she did, she never did say so to daddy.
He often left her all alone, she didn’t mind to staying home
If she did, she never did say so to daddy.
And she never missed the flowers and the gifts he never gave her
If she did, she never did say so to daddy.
Being took for granted was the thing that she accepted
And she didn’t need those things to make her happy
She didn’t even seem to notice that he didn’t kiss her…
If she did, she never did say so to daddy.
One morning we awoke, just to find a note
That mama carefully wrote and left to daddy
And as he began to read it, our ears could not believe it
The words that she had written there to daddy;
She said our kids are old and up
And they don’t need me very much
So I’ve gone in search for love I need so badly
I have needed you so long, but I just can’t keep holding on
She never meant to come back home
If she did, she never did say so to daddy
Mama’s gone.
Goodbye to daddy.
Most times, men fail to understand that women hardly talk in other not to hurt the male ego (in men). And when they can’t hold it any more, they either resort to nagging which men hate the most or adopt silence and angry responses to activities and questions and quick outburst. Even when women try to talk, they don’t say it clearly. See how Beyonce Knowles tells R. Kelly:
If I were a boy
Even just for a day…
…I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl –
I swear I’d be better man.
I listen to her ‘cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted –
‘cause he’s taking you for granted
And everything you have, got destroyed.
This is a challenge to every man reading this article. Read and study. Read. Again I say – read. You just can’t do without it. If you have to read to become a lawyer, medical doctor or that professional that you are and you have to read for that extra career which you have, you also have to read and read, study and study, to be a good fiancée/husband and father. You need to read on how to understand when a woman is talking and what she is talking about. This is because women hardly know how to go to the point. After a woman’s complain or nagging, a man actually wonders on what exactly she is trying to say but if you pay a little more attention to what she complains about, you would definitely get a clue and the full gist.
Every woman’s silence says something. So also is her withdrawal and so is her outburst. The Movie “The Marriage Counsellor” makes me understand this yet the more – women are always talking and trying to say something with everything they say and do. You therefore have a responsibility to understand her. 2 When a lady tells her man some issues, problems or challenges, most times, she is not telling him to solve them or help her out. She is not asking him for his opinion or any suggestion. Most times, she just wants his sympathy and empathy says my friend Mimi Etukudo
We find it easy to understand a football coach’s strategy and understand what the noise of the car engine is saying. We understand what the dog is trying to say even when it can’t speak our languages and we understand what Mr. Bean and Tom & Jerry act in their movies but fail to understand our woman. It may not be so easy to understand, but certainly very possible if we read about them and spend a little more time with them and also ask and discuss with them on possible ways of understanding what they are trying to say. All we (may) need is a little more attention.
Until a pastor friend of mine started reading books about (understanding) women, he never knew that he was the problem of his relationship and thought that the lady was difficult and impossible. I have had different encounters with different women and I testify of feeling terribly bad after these ladies had to “burst out” and I poorly reacted back to their outburst. I (now) know by function of books and fair discussion with ladies, that I was the problem. Today, I see a lady and don’t want to take anything for granted again. And so should you.
Read women, understand women, that’s how to enjoy women.
Every man wants a God fearing woman. But how many men are making themselves a God fearing man? There’s no better time to learn how to be the best father and husband but now. And this is true even for women. A friend posted on facebook one morning that “a boy makes his girl jealous of other women. A gentleman makes other women jealous of his girl.”
When a girl shows attention or get excited around guys, most guys think of her to be immoral, indecent and worse still, a prostitute. Instead of treating her like a precious sister, they shun her openly in every way and frustrate every excitement she must have had. Women, whether sisters, friends, partners, colleagues… are emotional beings and should be treated with emotional care, sensitivity and caution. Check out Be a Big Brother
Remember that it is your relationship with Jesus that makes every other of your relationships sweet. For without God, man is nothing and without His help, our relationship is nothing but miserable hell.
I refuse to be another statistics; a black man who doesn’t give a damn about divorce. I refuse to allow my children witness divorce or make mature decisions in court. I choose to marry for life or not marry at all.
My name is Earl, and I am Alright.
What’s me on 08125086798 if you wish to chat one-on-one.
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