COOK THAT FROG GENTLY

COOK THAT FROG GENTLY

(How to be like God in your relationship, Pt. 5)

 

Good evening and welcome to the #AlrightsPassion Tuesdays’ Social Media Hang-Out on Twitter and www.fb.me/alrightspassion. Once again, I feel so honoured to be your counselor this evening on the #AlrightsPassion. My name is Earl, and I am Alright. My job is to help young people master their sexuality, and I minister Sexual Healing through Spoken Words.

The #AlrightsPassion MISSION is “helping teens, singles and married with sex and relationship issues through Spoken Words” and our VISION is “providing Christian counseling for teens, singles and married on sex and relationship”.

This isn’t EAT THAT FROG but COOK THAT FROG, GENTLY

What I want to teach you today should only be used to better your partner and your relationship. It shouldn’t be used to manipulate (that’s witchcraft), dominate or control your partner and the relationship. Yes, I want to show you how to transform your partner without him/her feeling “changed”.

Truth is, every relationship changes us and we always want our partner to change something about them for the better. Something about their personality, their beliefs, taste and choices; we all aren’t innocent of this.

Someone said when a man finds a wife, he prays to God that she doesn’t change in body, person or size. And that when a woman finds a man, she wishes she could just change him to be a little better, some more. She also prays that he would change. Truth be told, we all (male/female) want our partner to change, maybe a little. But instead of changing your partner from red, straight to blue, why not do it God’s style. God’s way.

Yes, God changes us, but gradually (Romans 12:2, Philipians 4:8), leaving the option to us. And you see, God so lavishly loves that you ordinarily just want to change to be better for Him. So, instead of trying to change your partner drastically, do it slowly and gently and s/he won’t even notice.

Remember the person didn’t form the habit and behavior in one day. Don’t expect change in 1year! Rather than tell them to change, suggest the change and give reasons for it, showing the benefits.

You know how to cook a live frog? Turn up the heat slowly, gradually, and the jumping chicken will keep adjusting. And this temperature adjustment will continue until it is fully cooked and served. That’s the trick.

The toad or frog never suspects danger. It thinks it’s normal. That’s the idea. That’s the trick. That is why I insist that you mustn’t use this idea negatively (manipulation) on your partner or relationship.

You partner already knows about his/her own bad habits and character. You don’t have to put it to his/her face. Allow your partner to better his/her relationship with God and other people, and your relationship will become better too. Instead of telling him or her to change, ask what s/he would want you to change or start doing or do better. Trust me, if your partner is lovely, s/he will ask you the same question and the change would be mutual.

Your partner isn’t Naija and you aren’t APC. So, instead of a sharp “change”, focus on gradual transformation/renewal. Hahahahhahahaha, and did I just sound like a PDP fan? Forgive me.

It may really appear slow, but it’s sure and attracts zero resistance and it’s well tolerated too. The slow change may be frustrating, but don’t worry, we are all striving to/for perfection. And remember that Jesus is our perfection and we would only become perfect at His appearing.

So, rather than telling your partner directly, suggest it. Don’t even advice it, suggest it. Tell him/her through a book, movie or message. That way, the author/producer/preacher will bear the blame; not you. Let him/her hear it directly from another person of reputable public Christian status. It will help a lot.

Instead of telling him/her what to do, ask what you can do to make them feel more loved and wanted. What you can do to be more attractive, romantic, understanding, supporting and helpful.

Cook that frog slowly.

Don’t say all the change(s) you want in one day or in one year sef.

Abegi.

If you do this, your partner will reciprocate the same. s/he won’t see you as a critique but as a lover.  Remember that the devil is the accuser of the brethren, not you. Don’t play Lucifer to your partner. Do what you want your partner to do. Give AND IT will come back in good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over.

Jesus COULDN’T change His protégées in 3years! Don’t attempt to do it in 5years joor. Think right jare. Never think you can change him/her. S/he can pretend throughout the relationship to be “changing”. People (including you) usually put out their best foot (character and personality) in relationships.

If you can’t put up with the person and lovingly accept Him/her, abeg, quit that relationship now.  Somebody needs him/her just like that. If you want a V.boot, buy one, don’t put a V.boot engine in BabyBoy.

Allow me to stop here and give you the evening for another thing. Cook that frog gently. WhatsApp me 08125086798. Counseling at #AlrightsPassion is free courtesy of our financial partners. God bless you guys.

Don’t forget that it’s your relationship with Jesus that makes your other relationship(s) sweet. Thank you for sharing this time with me. I appreciate it. YOU ROCK!

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